How many times have you heard or been told “Don’t sweat the small stuff”. Cliché I know, but really you can’t sweat the small stuff, and what may seem as a big deal, well you just can’t let it control you.
Often time’s life hits us with unexpected road blocks, but as you know, it is how you respond that makes or breaks you. This past year I have experienced many disappointments, quite a few setbacks, and a few heart breaks. What I’ve learned after the storm is that where one door closes a greater one opens. However, sometimes we end up weathering a storm longer than we should due to holding on to our sorrows too long.
He that angers you controls you, and sometimes that person we are most angry with is ourselves. Angry because we’ve held on too long or angry because we just can’t understand why an opportunity didn’t work out for us. [God Blocked It]
Maybe you’re holding on too long to a relationship-friendship, or a personal failure. Whatever it is you must move on. You must put an expiration date on your sorrows or problems, and realize that you have the power to control your sanity-happiness.
I am now 23, but at the age of 21 I came up with this theory that in order for me to remain happy and sane, I have to constantly set an expiration date for any negativity that may come in my life.
This means putting an expiration date on Self-Pity. Putting an expiration date on Toxic Relationships. Putting an expiration date on Laziness. Putting an expiration date on Bitterness.
And wholly giving my problems to GOD.
Because reality is, there will be roadblocks in our lives, but we must be determined to overcome them and not let them overtake us.
Psalms 55:22 Cast your burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain you: he shall never permit the righteous to be moved.
This past year I have had the Vice President of Human Resources at my job invite me out for lunch. Normally if we did lunch it was the whole team, but she took me out alone to have a one on one. She then expressed to me how impressed she was with my work ethics within the company in such short time. Because I was getting closer to my graduation date, she expressed to me how she was so happy for me, and we discussed setting a meeting for me to get a promotion within the company. I had only been working for three months, but as the normal senior, I was filled with joy. I felt like all the struggling of college was finally paying off…
That following week before going in to take a final exam, I got a call stating that
I had been fired.
Yesss, I said fired. I was devastated, I was broken, I was hurt… More than anything I was angry, because the department knew that I was out of the office to take my final exams. All I could think was, did they not care at all how this news would affect my emotional state? I guess not. Oh and to make it worse, I wasn’t even contacted by the HR department nor my supervisor. When speaking to the company liaison, I asked for an explanation, and the response I received was “poor performance”.
Whaaaatttttt? I felt bamboozled…betrayed, and every other negative emotion you could think of. It was then I had to put my money where my mouth is and put an expiration date to my sorrows.
During this time I learned that I had to put an expiration date to Self-Pity and Bitterness. I was taken to such a low place. But I had to determine not to let it over take me. I questioned myself daily wondering what I could have done wrong. I even reached out to my supervisor and never got a response. This made me bitter, but again I had to remind myself to put an expiration date to all my negative emotions and trust that God was in control.
When you set an expiration date on you problems, you allow yourself the chance to realize that yess this too shall past. You allow yourself to realistically get over a situation. You allow yourself to grieve, but you also take the time to encourage yourself in the midst of the storm. If you want to get even more ahead, you then take this time to praise your way through the storm, and allow God to shift things to work in your favor. You speak life, you speak truth, and you let go of the old.
Isaiah 43:18-19 Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of the old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; ow it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.
Sometimes to help myself get through an expiration date, I purchase myself flowers, and in doing so I tell myself that by the time these flowers die, so will my negativity. Once my flowers are dead, so is this situation. Because I know that once I let it go and give it to God, I will be free. Free to move on and free to receive greater blessings. Once I get rid of the dead things in my life, I allow new life and new blessings to bloom.
So whatever your road block may be, whatever the negative emotion it is that you are facing today, I challenge you to put an expiration date on it, and move forward with your life!
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