#BLOGGERCHALLENGE 34 & WINGIN’ IT – THEBUTLERJOURNAL.COM

As promised in my latest post “25 & WINGIN’ IT”. I will be sharing all post submitted in my blogger’s challenge. I’ve asked all my subscribers, readers, and bloggers friends to participate by sharing their very own Fun Facts, Confessions, and Lesson. Please read the post submission below from my good (great actually) friend Jason Butler, from THEBUTLERJOURNAL.COM. He’s definitely dropped quite a few gems, make sure to check him out!


One of my fellow bloggers, Courtney of PassionateWomanCS, is doing a bloggers challenge. For the challenge, you list fun facts, confessions and life lessons that you want to share. Here’s her original post. I haven’t done a blog challenge in a while, so I figured I should do this one. Since I’m 34, I’ll be jotting down 34 different facts, confessions and lessons.

Fun Facts

1. I drove from Atlanta to Jacksonville to Los Angeles when I was 29. That cross-country trip was two of the best weeks of my life.

2. I’ve visited 16 Major League Baseball Stadiums.

3. I won $1200 on the slots in Las Vegas a few years ago.

4. I graduated from Savannah State University with a degree in marketing.

5. My first car was a 2000 Chevy Malibu.

6. I’ve been blogging for five years.

7. I have multiple side hustles. My favorite is selling things on eBay.

8. I worked at Paula Deen’s restaurant in college.

9. I love whiskey.

10. I went to game 6 of the 1995 World Series and saw the Atlanta Braves win their only championship.

11. I love a good party but haven’t been to a real club in years. I go to lounges now.

Confession

12. I hit rock bottom in 2009. It took me a while to get used to life after college. Also, it took me over a year to find my first full-time job.

13. I used to overthink things all the time. I stopped doing that.

14. I paid off my credit card debt in March 2017, only to be back in it by September of that year.

15. There was one year in college where I only passed 12 credits total. I didn’t fail that many of them. I withdrew and dropped a lot of them though. I was super Sigma during that time of my life and didn’t always make the best choice.

16. At one point college got boring to me. Interning at Disney World got me focused though.

17. I didn’t take my blog seriously for the first two years. I wrote a lot of bullshit that nobody wrote. Many posts were only 300 words. I provide a lot of value now.

18. I quit a job and didn’t have a backup plan. I knew that I couldn’t stay there forever. I also knew that I wanted to make my cross country trip before I turned 30, so I made a decision and quit.

19. After the cross-country trip, I didn’t work a full-time job for over a year.

20. I have over $59,000 worth of debt.

21. Being an Atlanta native, I miss the old ATL. If you never got a chance to party in Buckhead, you missed out. That’s when Atlanta was really fun.

22. I lost all my freelance clients in a six-week timeframe last year.

Lesson

23. Don’t listen to the naysayers. If you have a goal, make it happen.

24. Self care is important. Meditate, work out, talk to a friend, or do whatever you have to do to stay on your game.

25. If there’s an artist or sports team that you want to seem, go do it. You may not have another chance to see them.

26. Discipline is key. It will take you places.

27. Sooner or later, you will have to chill with the partying if you are trying to be a success.

28. You will grow apart from some people. That’s perfectly fine. You will be alright.

29. Put the phone down and enjoy the moment. You’ll never have this time again.

30. If you can, start making payments on your student loans immediately. Your future self will thank you.

31. Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses. Most of them are broke.

32. Create multiple streams of income. They will help you in the long run. Here are 40+ side hustles that you can check out.

33. Don’t give up. Whatever you want to do in life, make it happen.

34. Don’t take life too seriously. Enjoy it.

This was a cool post to write. Shout out to Courtney for having the challenge.


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#BLOGGERCHALLENGE 36 & Winging It – IAMSOHOGLAM.COM

As promised in my latest post “25 & WINGIN’ IT”. I will be sharing all post submitted in my blogger’s challenge. I’ve asked all my subscribers, readers, and bloggers friends to participate by sharing their very own Fun Facts, Confessions, and Lesson. Please read the post submission below from my sista friend, JayChantelle, from IAMSOHOGLAM.COM


Funny how timing works. Last week, I was thinking of recording a podcast regarding fun facts about me, but now I will complete this challenge. i promise I am going to share some good things that you never knew about the girl behind I am SohoGlam. Normally, I am a private person and don’t share much about myself. So, take a few sips of some tea as you enjoy my tea. Here it goes:

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Fun Facts:

1. I look MUCH younger than my age. Next month, I will be turning 37 years old (yes, you read that right #37where)!
2. I relocated to Atlanta in July 2017 after three failed attempts.
3. I love both coffee and tea. I drink whatever I am in the mood for.
4. I have five tattoos and want more!
5. I haven’t ate red meat in over 20 years and I am a proud FLEXITARIAN!
6. I LOVE music! I listen to music more than I watch television or do both at the same time.
7. Even though I can’t swim, I love the water. I wish I was laying on the beach right now!
8. Speaking of water, I am ADDICTED to sparkling water (Perrier, S. Pellegrino, LaCroix, you get it)!
9. I am extremely emotional – I also do not have a poker face so you can read all of my expressions on my face. They say us Cancer’s are sensitive, lol!
10. I love wine more than any alcoholic beverage.
11. I HATE bugs! I am struggling down here in GA, lol!
12. I am a excellent speller – I would like to thank my grandfather for making me read the dictionary and encyclopedia. That’s how I became a great speller.

Confessions:

1. I am TERRIFIED of lightning!
2. I do want cosmetic surgery. I want a lip augmentation and have collagen injected in my lips (just a little for slightly fuller lips).
3. When it comes to dating, I wear my heart on my sleeve.
4. *Weirdo Alert* I have a lotion fetish. I am obsessed with lotion and how it feels when I rub it on my skin.
5.  I am not a foot person, in fact I hate my feet as well as walking bare foot.
6. I am a low key homebody. Don’t get me wrong, I love to go out, but majority of the time, I am at home.
7. I have an OCD, I am a neat freak and very observant of everything around me.
8. I am a procrastinator! I spent majority of grad school waiting until the last minute to complete assignments. I guess I work better under pressure. Not to mention I always wait until the day before I go out of town to pack.
9. During my teenage years, I HATED makeup. My mom used to beg me to wear it and I was not having it.
10. Even though I am very confident of myself, I have always been a little self-conscious of my body. I guess because I was taunted at a young age (I developed pretty early).
11. I have Beta Thalassemia. It is a blood disorder in the anemia family that is common in the Mediterranean culture that causes constant fatigue due to low iron and hemoglobin. I am also anemic – a freeze baby and loves ice.
12. My first boyfriend I had in the 7th grade was in a gang (and I liked it).

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Lessons:

1. Always keep God first.
2. It is okay to be different. I march to the beat of my own drum and I love that about myself. So always be yourself, no matter what.
3. You can catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.
4. Always continue to learn – a mind is a terrible thing to waste.
5. When you are a perfectionist, you tend to stress over the little things. It is okay to take a breather, regroup and come back.
6. Never regret anything. I remember regretting about not being able to attend an HBCU. I wanted to attend Florida A&M University, but I was too afraid to leave home. Everything works out for the best – I still have my degrees, even though they are not from an HBCU.
7. Never live your life dwelling on the past. You will never be able to move ahead.
8. It is important to take care of yourself (mind, body and spirit).
9. Trust the process and always keep your faith.
10. Chances make champions.
11. Pick your battles. Some things are not worth battling for. Just let it go and don’t sweat it.
12. Communication is key for all relationships.

Be great and amazing!


 

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#BLOGGERCHALLENGE: 23 & WINGIN’ IT | Michaela Carter

As promised in my latest post “25 & WINGIN’ IT”. I will be sharing all post submitted in my blogger’s challenge. I’ve asked all my subscribers, readers, and bloggers friends to participate by sharing their very own Fun Facts, Confessions, and Lesson. Please read the post submission below from my dear friend, Michaela Carter, from ADASHOFMICHAELA.COM


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FUN FACTS:

  1. I’m extremely shy, but once I’m comfortable around someone, they meet the goofy and talkative Michaela!
  2. I’m a blogger and freelance writer with an entire Journalism degree THAT CANNOT SPELL. (I’m trying y’all).
  3. My favorite color is blue, but I don’t own many things that are blue (most people think I love pink).
  4. I am my mother’s only child and my nana’s only grandchild. However, I am the oldest of 5 children by my dad.
  5. I can really sing, but no one has ever heard me sing (unless I am playing around) since I was a young girl (because…#1).
  6. I just became an AKA (this past weekend)!!
  7. I love vintage clothing and other items. Actually, I own an old Polaroid camera and a record player (I also collect vinyl records).
  8. Although I’m from a small town, I’ve ALWAYS loved big cities. My goal is to move to an even bigger city than Atlanta in the future.

CONFESSIONS:

  1. I’m a control freak. I have an issue with allowing others to help me…working on that!
  2. I battle with a lot of fears; fear of the unknown, fear of disappointment…fear of bugs (especially roaches).
  3. I have trust issues…slightly.
  4. Although I’m a writer, I hate the physical aspect of writing (or typing). The finished product is what I love the most about writing.
  5. I procrastinate like crazy, with EVERYTHING.
  6. I lose interest quickly sometimes. (also, working on this haha).
  7. I’ve never been in love, just in strong “like” with someone.
  8. I’m a lot more introverted than I would like to admit.

LESSONS:

  1. Worrying only takes away from our lives.
  2. It’s okay to be unapologetically ME. Who cares what others think? Only God’s view of me matters.
  3. LET GO AND LET GOD.
  4. Never allow circumstances and/or people to silence you or dim your light.
  5. It’s okay to bask in your blessings. Don’t ever feel bad about the favor that God has on your life (just remain humble in the process).
  6. It’s also okay to not be okay sometimes. Allow yourself to feel and work through EVERY emotion that you encounter.
  7. I’m only 23. I’m not supposed to have it all figured out. (Plus, where’s the fun in that anyway?)

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25 & Wingin’ it

25 & Winging it

This blog is all about confessions, lessons, and fun facts about me. Today marks 25 days since I’ve turned 25…and despite how well I hold things together, truth is…I’m wingin’ it.

Fun Facts:

1. Brown is my favorite color and not even age could change that.

2. I am nowhere near my end goal, but I’m working in my desires career field, and in a pretty dope industry, advertising.

3. I’m very strong minded but also extremely open minded. #Growth

4. I don’t take myself as serious as most people do. I can be really serious and business mindset then 10 minutes later the life of the party being really goofy. #WellBalanced

5. I have a natural “high”, and I’m almost always the life of the party. However, contrary to belief too much liquor either makes me moody or sleepy. [This is a note to my friends, “I’m too grown for peer pressure”, lmao!]

6. I’m not easily swayed, and being overly pushy actually peeves me. I’ve actually walked away from many deals because of it.

7. I have traveled now to 8 different countries.

I’m Livin’ My Best Life | Igloo 5.6.18

Confession:

8. I’m learning that self love is like a fulltime job. There’s days when it’s draining, overwhelming, hard af, tiring…then there’s days when it’s refreshing, fulfilling, and comforting.

9. I’m in love with my boyfriend and I’m pretty sure he’s my future husband.

10. I also have serious break-ups every other week, but hey, we’re still getting #BaeGoals lmao.

11. Long distance is for the birds. The people that I hold closest to my heart from my best friends to boyfriend all live in different cities/states, and experiencing growing pains without your closest friends by your sides can be a struggle.

12. People always nudge me to blog on relationships, I always respond with, “I don’t do relationship advice”. After some self-analyzation, I realized, I can’t share tips/advice that even I can’t take [lmao], but with much courage to get out of my comfort zone, I do plan to add a relationship corner to my blog to share my personal journey. [This is scary so no pressure hahaha]

13. I took one class in college 3xs [repeatedly] before obtaining my degree.

14. As much as I like to plan ahead, I have no clue where my life will be in 3 years and it drives me crazy.

15. I’ve always been known as the life of the party or the person that knows everyone, but for years I’ve struggled discerning friends from foes. With wisdom in prayer, I can finally say, I’ve weeded out my bad seeds, and I’ve learned how to cater to the “misguided”.

16. Some people have daddy issues, but I don’t, I have mommy issues. [inserts dramatic crying emoji, love you Ma]

17. Like most people, sometimes our greatest “assets” are our biggest insecurities. I’ve had a shape all of my life, but only recently have I gained comfort in wearing shorts, bodycon dress, etc. I get really self-conscious about my body.

18. Me too.

19. I never had true aspirations to become a blogger. One day I just started, and its has evolved into a door of opportunity for professional, personal, and spiritual growth. [check out my beginners work here]

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Lesson:

20. You don’t always have to give an explanation or response, but if you do, choose your words wisely.

21. Closure is a privilege and feedback is a gift!

22. I recently had a friend share with me, “Courtney, I never worry about you. You always find a way to re-evaluate your self and reset when facing challenge.”, so my lesson here is: Reassess, Recalculate, Re-evaluate, Rest, Restore.

23. When you don’t recognize your worth you lose your worth.

24. You won’t always have control, and that’s okay. You have more of a job of identifying the problem, maybe even confronting the problem, but it’s God’s job to solve it. You just have to find the strength to cast your cares unto God!

25. When climbing up the ladder for personal-professional growth, always remember that humility comes before honor. So even if you have to take the road less traveled, or take what may seem as the “longer” path, with continuous prayer [for strength and guidance] you will find your way to victory.

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Challenge: Do you have any Fun Facts, Confession, Lesson you’d like to share? Tag a friend or two other bloggers to participate and I’ll feature your submissions/blogs on my site! Just tag #BloggerChallenge “(Include your age here) & Wingin’ It”! 


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Glow In The Dark

I used to think to myself, “THANK GOD I don’t look like what I’m going through…”.

Now days I’m like “$#%@h did you not hear me say I’m struggling”? LMAO, excuse the language, but can I get real?

The past few months have been quite the test. I’ve had to walk on ice, eggshells, and even walk through the fire it seems. I’ve had to fall on my face in prayers to ask…well, actually beg for God’s mercy. I’ve had to face humility and take a few L’s. I’ve had to uncomfortably hustle.

In my latest blog “Document: Adjusting in Atlanta”, I’ve shared a few of my personal roadblocks, as well as frustrations. I’ve found that despite all the mess I was going through, God blessed me with a GLOW!

In fact, as I was enduring my many growing pains, there were many times I wanted to be angry. I wanted to be vengeful and give back the same energy being presented to me.

Without being told, I found myself turning the other cheek. I decided not to complain [well my close friends heard it all], but adjust and solve each problem the best way I knew how.

From walking away from someone I thought was a best friend, to dealing with betrayal from strangers. I found myself losing control more and more everyday, but  somehow I remained with a GLOW…

One day I found myself getting frustrated. Like maybe I’m being too nice. Maybe you’re taking too much ownership, because no one else is owning up to their bullshit, and by you taking up your faults, you’re drawing all the attention to yourself. Maybe you’re being too considerate of others who honestly don’t give a shit about you… [Excuse my language…but can we get real?]

Well on this good day, I also had a friend share with me part of a recording from her bible study that week. The pastor said something along the lines of “..you’re not weak, you’re just operating in God’s peace..”. It was in that moment that I realized, my spirit was still aligned with God’s grace, God’s peace. I didn’t have it in me to be angry about the things that everyone swore to me they would’ve handle in a messy way.

Again, still losing control and taking the punches, I’ve remained with a GLOW…

One day I cried so bad and took a look into the mirror and felt completely ashamed of myself. I told my boyfriend how I felt so ugly and how I’m just tired. My eyes were red and I rubbed off my mascara, my eyebrows weren’t filled in, I looked a hot mess!

But somehow he still saw beauty in me. Chances are he was just gassing me up as a boyfriend should when you’re down, but for whatever reason he saw my GLOW…

On another day, I had to go into my supervisor’s office to explain a mistake I made, but before I could get to it, she let me know, “I believe in you and your success…” Although we had to get through some negative feedback, she saw my GLOW…

So why do I share all of this? Well sometimes people like myself are going through hell, or at least it seems that way. Sometimes many of us are strong because literally that’s our only option.

As a matter of fact, there was one day I had someone compliment me for being strong, instead of taking it as a compliment, I felt insulted. Why? Because sometimes people get tired of being strong. Sometimes despite our internal GLOW, we just need a hug, or a day with no responsibilities. Although we may be doing just fine problem solving to get through, we just need a hug or a phone call just to pray. Sometimes what may seem as a congratulations, may simply be just a breath of fresh air.

So if you have a friend that you see going through it, but still has a GLOW…Remember to still check in. Recognize when you see someone operating in anxiety, and if you can, offer an activity that drives relief-relaxation.

If you’re the person GLOWING in the midst of your darkness…Remember to self check. Recognize what baggage(s) you’re holding on to, recognized your triggers, and find ways to remove them. Ask God to help you cast your cares onto him.

And though it may seem tough when no one recognizes your pain. Take it as a blessing, and a sign that God is with you when you have a GLOW IN THE DARK.

Matthew 5:16

In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.

 

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Document: Adjusting in Atlanta

As some of you may have seen on twitter, I’ve been struggling to make this post. I’ve been going through many phases from struggle to self-healing to surrendering all to God. One post became another then another, and now I’m here at split it in two.

Hours after prolonging my post I remembered an Instagram video posted by my dear friend Kiara Harris with Breaking The Facades Podcast [plug…check her out].

A post shared by The Facade Project (@breakthefacades) on The video is subjected “Document > Create”, and it focused on not taking so much time on being creative when sharing your journey, but simply documenting your journey. So shout out to you Keeks for inspiring me to actually make this post and not trash it.
I typically like to have a flow to my blogs, this one doesn’t have one, but cheers to Documenting my Journey completely raw!


Document: Adjusting in Atlanta

As many of you know, I moved to Atlanta this past summer. It was fast, quick, and God’s favor has truly been with me. I was blessed to find not only a job, but a job in my career field, and honestly my dream job within two weeks.

Although moving has been a bliss, and the start of me growing into my career field, I have faced obstacle after obstacle after obstacle.

It started with the struggles of living with family. Let’s just say it’s one thing to visit someone, and it’s another to live with them.

Then shortly after I had my car shipped to Atlanta, I found myself on the side of the road day after day, with no money to get my car fixed.

During this time, I truly learned to exercise my faith. LOL, like I would literally be on the side of the road like “Lord please let the car turn back on. Pleaseee!”

But eventually I hustled enough to move closer to my job, be in my own space, and rely on public transportation.

Save the claps though…With every high there came a low.

Within my first week in my new place, I found myself jumping out of a burning car that was on fire. So cheers to being traumatized in the big city, and now not having a car.

Also praise God, because it could’ve all went another way!

But no worries, I’m built for this, I’ve just got to adjust to fully using public transport. Life is getting pretty lonely, I’m tired…but I’m here because God allowed me to be.

Just as I was finding my way around at work, I started having trouble in paradise. My home became a hoe house *tears*, from “brothers” to side nixxas to the boyfriend moving in.

Long story short, I had to accept that I had to find a new roommate and pay a higher rent rate.

Oh let me not forget, take on some unpaid bills.

I was holding things together well [Drinking lots of wine too]. I even decided to pick up a second job to help myself. It seemed that every time I got over one hump, another one came, and before I could fuss about it, I was grateful to be closing the last door.

Why am I sharing this?

Because honestly, I’m tired. Yes, tired of going through struggles…but mostly tired of being transparent about my struggles, and then having them overlooked as well.

I’m tired of being looked at as simply the lucky one that got to get away. Or the strong one getting through the fight.

Daily I face many struggles head on with the mindset that I will prevail.

I’m here in Atlanta today because I decided to hustle hard for it. I make it to work on time using public transportation because I choose to hustle hard for it. [Who would’ve thought the city girl would still have to ride the city bus *tears* lol] I’ve never missed any bill payments because I choose to work hard for it. I’ve fallen on my face as well because its part of God’s nature to remind us that we can and should rely on him.

Again writing this blog has frustrated me, because I hate the idea of venting through a blog and not offering encouragement. Or just sharing my business with no true purpose.

So I’ll end this blog with this….

No matter where you are in life, keep fighting the good fight. Hitting road blocks doesn’t mean you’re not doing it right, its simply a challenge to recognize and build your strength.

Oh and if you see me in the streets [prob never, but you know what I mean] don’t ask me how’s the night life in Atlanta or invite yourself to my crib. Ask me about the struggle, what life’s teaching me, or how to win a spiritual fight?

And to my blogger friends out there. Listen to my dear friend Kiara…

There will be times to create, but make time to document the journey along the way!

“Turning Negatives Into Positives, One Blog at a Time…”- Passionate Woman


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“Baby When I Used To Love You”

This past November, I had Playwright, M. C. Walker, born and raised here in Atlanta, GA, reach out to me to come review her play, “Baby When I Used To Love You”. I was heading out-of-town, but I didn’t want to pass up this opportunity. Besides, I haven’t been to a play in about three years.

I can’t lie, before attending this play, I was thinking to myself, “This is about to be really corny”.LOL. But I like corny so this is okay.

Just two minutes into the play, my first tweet was, “Oh shit this is juicy”!

Playwright, M.C. Walker took no time to dive into the dramas of Monica Charles and Chase Fitzpatrick. It was not long before my emotions became involved with the story line and characters.  And to my surprise, [excuse me I always start with very low expectations], the actors truly played their roles without coming off too staged.

If you haven’t figured it out by now…Yes this play was all about romance, love, heartbreak, and taking the risk not to settle.

Have you ever loved someone with all you have, but life just doesn’t’ work out in your favor? You ever cried yourself to sleep to get over what you knew to be your one true love? Have you ever experienced gaining the strength to love yourself and move on to a happier life, and new relationship? You know…your skin is getting clearer, ass getting fatter…Then BAM!! Just as you are happy with your new man, the guy you denounced as your soul mate is working like he is gold mining to get back into your life.

In these moments, the lead, Monica Charles is faced with battling against her past and her present, in hopes of choosing her dream man, while chasing her dreams.

While I won’t share how this story ended, but I will share that I genuinely laughed out loud throughout the entire play. I had moments where I was nervous for the next outcome [next scene], because Sis was writing my life story!

Might I add, the props, and transition of scenery was flawless. Although I tried to snap a few scenes for my personal review, Playwright M.C. Walker had me glued from beginning to the end. If you aren’t looking forward to M. C. Walker’s next play, I am, and I can’t wait to share more with you!

Visit http://www.seeminoltawrite.com to see more of  M. C. Walker’s writing, and head over to my Spotlight section to see here as my January Spotlight Feature!

XOXO

Passionate Woman

8 Tips To Living Your Best Life In 2018

Leave these 8 things behind:

 

[Photo courtesy of Sam Burriss]

1- Toxic Relationships – The older I get, the more I recognize my anxieties, the more I am aware of different energies, and how my mood changes when I’m around certain people. I’m not talking about “Oh, I’m suddenly in a bad mood.” But I’m suddenly on edge or over observant, (you know when you have to keep a third eye to figure out how fake this person wants to be today)…all of that because the truth is we don’t trust these toxic people in our lives. Although we don’t trust them or their sincerity, we’re reluctant to facing the reality of getting rid of these people, because somewhere within us we’ve once (or still do) love these people, and want to see the good in them. Dead it! You can’t move on or reach new heights when we’re holding on to dead weight and extra baggage. – Leave it in 2017.

[Photo courtesy of Estee Janssens]

2 – Unaccomplished Goals – I mean this is simple. Let’s be more strategic; lets hold ourselves more accountable with reaching our very own goals. Let’s take responsibility in pursuing passions, living with purpose, and reaching our full potential. Lets put childlike ways behind us (making wish lists, and posting #Goals all over social media), and not putting in the work behind the scenes to reach said goals. Lets be strategic moving forward in 2018 to reach new heights and put in work; get certified for that promotional increase; start that podcast; go to that first home owners class; study more for that LSAT exam. Break all excuses and jump up after every set back with the mindset to WIN all 2018.

[Photo courtesy of Eloise Ambursley]

3 – Playing Yourself – This is for us single folk. Yep, us, cause without a ring, we all single baby! In order to not play yourself, you must know what you want. Once you know what that is, don’t settle for anything less. We tend to tell ourselves that we don’t want the things that we really do, simply because we don’t have the courage to stand up for ourselves or what we want. So, if you want to be in a relationship and a guy tells you he doesn’t have the same intentions in mind, stop entertaining him. Telling yourself “we’re just friends” is playing yourself. If you love him, own it. If you cherish yourself more, own that too, and stop playing yourself. If you are ready to go from girl friend to wife, and it seems your man will never be ready…Stop Playing Yourself!  Life is too short to play wife to a boyfriend, and vise versa for the males. If you want to get back into school to get that new degree, go for it and stop making excuses. Holding yourself back from your own dreams due to doubt or lack of courage is P-L-A-Y-I-N-G YOURSELF. Anything from doubt, fear, lack of encouragement, you name it, if it doesn’t serve you or your self-betterment, let it go and stop playing yourself.

[Photo courtesy of Gift Habeshaw]

4 – Choosing Everyone Except Yourself – Do you know how many opportunities you pass up in not choosing yourself first? I mean you miss out on naps, job opportunities, adding zeros to your savings account. I’m a firm believer in being a giver, and a friend, but take the time to choose you. Don’t let another year go by and you haven’t reached your goals due to being there for everyone except yourself.

[Photo courtesy of Olu Eletu]

5 – Not Sticking to Your Personal Budget – Truthfully, I love to brunch, get cute, and have fancy meals with friends. Like, this ?? is ?? my ?? club ??. As a matter of fact I caught myself attending brunch every weekend with friends, but I had to stop and recognize, “I need to stay in my lane. I can’t afford this, lol.” I had to budget myself to one brunch and one dinner a month. We have to grow responsibly and learn to say no when we don’t have it. We have to take responsibility to save for the days we run into unpredictable situations, like a flat tire, or random medical expense. Let’s leave childish, and irresponsible ways behind so that we may work our way to financial prosperity in 2018!

[Photo courtesy of Hust Wilson]

6 – Settling In the Professional World – Yous Kind, Yous Smart, Yous Important! Often, I hear stories from my friends about people who are miserable in their late 30s-50s, and they’ve been on a job for 10-15 years. They hate their jobs, but after being so complacent, and allowing fear to dictate their life, they are stuck in the same unhappy place. If you’re unhappy (and educated), get off your ass and start looking for better work opportunities or take on the challenge to move up. The sky is the limit, and life is what you make it. Things may not always be fast and easy, but work towards progression, whether that means perfecting your current skills/job performance, or taking the leap of faith to take your talents to  a new level, a new environment.

[Photo courtesy of Michael Heuss]

7 – Ignoring Mental Health Issues – We live in a society where at the click of a button you can put on a full mask. Posting a picture on your social media account at your highest low, and then crying yourself to sleep that night with a fist full of insecurities. Lets take the time to recognize when we need a break from work, a break from life, a break from all toxic behaviors and/or encounters.

[Photo courtesy of Darren Coleshill]

8 – Entertaining Ignorance – I made a vow to myself a few years ago to only share good news. This includes comedy and things that make you laugh. This also includes sharing accomplishments of friends-family members, sharing a testimony of how someone won the battle over depression. What I won’t share is foolery such as fighting, post promoting self-hate-colorism, slander-gossip (whether it’s about a classmate or a celebrity), live videos of people being abused– you name it. In 2018, let’s be strategic about sharing positivity and awareness on knowing our rights vs. hate.

 

I challenge you all to join me in moving onward and forward using the 8 tips above. Let’s leave behind all bad habits and counterproductive activities.

Let’s Be Intentional in our personal progress in 2018!

 

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We’re Going to Need More Wine [Review]

If you follow my blog/instagram, you’ll know that I’ve recently started a book club. My first book to review of course was Gabrielle Union’s “We’re Going to Need More Wine”.

Initially preparing to write this review, I planned to highlight my favorite chapters/stories from the book. Instead, I’d like to highlight this from a bloggers perspectives.

We’re Going to Need More Wine touched on the subjects of

  • The Token Black Girl
  • The Girl Who Doesn’t Care for Marriage [yes they exist]
  • Finding Your identity in a World Where You’re Not Accepted
  • Owning Your Identity and Blackness in Hollywood
  • Me Too;
  • Yeast Infections, Because Celebrities Get Those Too
  • Miseducation of Sex Education – [I guess I’m not the only one who wasn’t told about the birds and the bees]
  • Big Bank Takes Little Bank – What It’s Like Dating Another Celebrity
  • Infertility and the Sensitivity of Minding Your Business
  • And plenty more….

The one thing I enjoyed most from reading “We’re Going to Need More Wine”, is Gabrielle’s transparency.

Throughout reading her book I had quite a few moments where I was like: “FORREAL Gabby?”, “Sis you bold af”, “I can totally relate”, “We’re officially souls sisters”….

Gabby’s transparency allowed me to feel comfortable in my insecurities. Not in a way that would cause me to dwell and not make change, but in a way where I felt normal.

Have you ever had an emotional or traumatizing experience that you felt no one could relate to? Have you ever vented to someone about something, and he/she just comes from a different background or upbringing so truly they could not relate to your matter and an hour into venting you feel like your were talking to a tree?

More Wine PLEASE!

Well in reading about Gab Unions stories, I felt this relief knowing that I am truly not alone. Then on the other hand there were moments where I absolutely could not relate and thought “dang Gabbs you wildin”, however I appreciated her transparency.

I can’t lie I was definitely judging her in many circumstances, however in sharing her truth I was able to understand her perspective and the underlying truth behind why she felt so strongly about certain matters. I was able to dig deep and understand how she moved according to past pain.

As a blogger, I am conditioned to sharing my truths and sharing my opinion, whether it’s through sharing a testimonial experience or a product review. Reading “We’re Going to Need More Wine” inspired me to wild out! Lol.

During my book club and reviewing “We’re Going to Need More Wine”, I decided not to record the meeting live as I planned. I decided to open the room for vulnerability and truth. I shared parts of my life that only my best friends know about.

It was in the moments of sharing my story and reviewing the stories of Gabrielle’s book that I felt empowered to be more transparent.

I can’t say I’ve ever sugar coated any of my blogs, but I know there are many subjects that I’ve strayed away from. Often because in sharing my own truths I’d have to share the truth of others. [opp] But it’s in our truths, in our transparency that we connect with others the most.

I’ve decided that going forward into 2018 that I will do the uncomfortable and speak on the topics that allow me to be more vulnerable. Besides I created my blog to encourage, to enlighten, and to empower. So if you’re with me hit the subscribe now button above!

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Holiday Blues – How to avoid them?

Tis the season to be jolly!

With the holidays coming up I’d like to bring awareness to the Holiday Blues, aka depression. If you don’t know, Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. It’s a time when all of my family comes together, we crowd around in the kitchen and take instructions from my mom on how to make xyz dish. My mom shares her memories with my Big Mama [grandmother], and we get to lick the bowl after pouring out the cake batter. [Don’t act like you never licked the bowl] It’s an exciting time for me. But somehow the same reason I’m excited about the holidays, Thanksgiving in particular, is the same reason I sometimes dread the holidays. Everyone will be together!!

I don’t know about y’all, but my family is dysfunctional and at this point in life there is no shame to it. But as the old meme said “Ain’t nobody got time for that”.

Despite our reoccurring family issue, I love my family. I love the holidays! So for the past few weeks I’ve been reaffirming to myself, “Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, and I will not let anyone ruin that…”

 

So with the holidays coming around the corner, and many family gatherings, I’d like to share with you all a few tips to avoid the holiday blues!

 

Lets go!

 

PROTECT YOUR PEACE

This will be my number one and most important tip! If I’ve learned anything within the past few years, I’ve learned to protect my own peace. I’ve learned to recognize the things that trigger me, and one of those things is to be questioned by people who don’t know me. Being a family member doesn’t mean you [clap] know [clap] me [clap]. [And yess I had to add the claps] I understand that people want to get to know you, but what many don’t understand is that it’s a privilege to get to know someone. I know this may sound boojie, but lets be honest, how many people really care to know how you’re doing and how many are just looking for something to talk about, or for better words find a way to compare you to the next person. [I’m venting now…that’s not what this post is about lol] But protecting your peace is also avoiding toxic environments. We don’t like to talk about family dramas because it usually just creates more drama, however, if protecting your peace means staying at a hotel instead of big mamas house then do it. If protecting your peace means doing a thirty-minute stop to mama’s house then spending the rest of the holiday with your significant other, then protect your peace. I struggle with anxiety; I never recognized what it was until actually feeling physically sick being around certain people. I’ve learned to stay away from toxic environments, and toxic conversations. So I encourage you to PROTECT YOUR PEACE by all means this holiday season.

COVET NOT, FEAR NOT, FOR YOU ARE NOT ALONE

I remember during the ages of 15-20 years old, I would get really sad around the holidays. I grew up in a single family home, which meant mama did everything, and all that she could. When my older sisters got married [I’m the youngest of four], and started their own families, I would get sad if I found out they were not coming into town for the holidays. When they were around with their families, I would get really excited because they gave me hope. Hope of what a family looks like, and the possibilities of what a family could look like for me. When they weren’t around I would get depressed and think to myself, I’ll never know what its like to have a family. I would get lonely, and tell myself that I would be forever alone. My mom and I would visit her friends, and we’d spend time with their families, and it was always a great time, but when it was time to back home I would be sad all over again. I don’t know your story, or your situation, whether it’s from growing up in a single home, being the only single person in your family, or the only person without kids. If your cousin just got in engaged, but you’re still struggling to get a first date, don’t worry! COVET NOT – What god has for you is for you. FEAR NOT – Trust in God’s timing, purpose, and unique plan for you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE – The holidays are a time of joy and cheer. If you don’t have a family of your own, or you’ve loss a family member, be the blessing you want to receive.Choose to be a friend to the friendless, go volunteer at a shelter, and/or simply give to someone in need. Spend your holiday with a best friend, or a roommate. Don’t let the holiday blues get the best of you!

STAY IN YOUR FINANCIAL LANE

Let me restate it, STAY IN YOUR FINANCIAL LANE. One thing I don’t do is keep up with the Kardashians, or anyone at that. When the holidays arrive, it’s so much pressure to shop, to give, to take advantage of the latest black Friday deals, alla that [all of that]. Let me be your humble and sweetest reminder: you can live without it. Ask yourself these 10 questions: 1. Can I afford this? 2. Have all of my bills been paid? 3. If I have to make a sacrifice, is the opportunity cost worth it? 4. Will I have food to eat next week? 5. Do I have to borrow to get this? 6. Is this truly necessary? 7. Do we even talk like that? 8. Do I even want this (or to do this), or am I trying to prove something? 9. Is it worth the debt? 10. If I didn’t read about this deal, would I even consider buying this? If you answer NO to more than two of these questions, let me tell you, it’s not worth it. If you don’t have it, you don’t have it. Don’t put yourself into debt to be the super cool auntie, the favorite granddaughter, to get on your in-laws good side, to prove that life’s good even though your bills are currently behind. Don’t be afraid to have that talk early on with your family, friends, significant other, etc that honey, right now times are tough, so we have to work with what we’ve got. I really wanted to get some extension in my hair and have a cute bob for Thanksgiving, but truth is money is tight, I could just afford to come home for the holidays. Its okay to tell yourself no. STAY IN YOUR FINANCIAL LANE.

 

Those are my 3 tips on how to avoid “Holiday Blues” for this holiday season. If you have any more to share, please leave them in the comments below. Share this blog in a tweet, over Facebook, with your best friend.

 

Happy Holidays,

Yours Truly,

Passionate Woman CS

 


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