I’m Coming Out

[A carefree weekend in North Miami Beach.]

I’m coming out…

I’m coming out of fear…

I’m coming out of depression…

I’m coming out of self doubt…

I’m coming out of comfortability…

I’m coming out of laziness…

I’m coming out of disorganization…

I’m coming out of complaining…

I’m coming out of the ring…

It’s been quite some time since I’ve opened myself up to even write, yet alone post to my blog. Since about February of this year I’ve been battling depression.

Just as I was finding my way out, I lost my Dad in April (Rest in Peace). Shortly after, May, I’ve come to terms with being unhappy in my relationship. Nonetheless, I work in an industry and field that is always filled with chaos (but I chose this life, so I have to deal with it, lol).

Whilst enduring it all, I’m learning…

Life will always deliver a new battle. We just have to remember how to fight by stepping out of the ring. Fighting not by flesh, but by spirit. Not with anger, but always in love. Overcoming anxiety by giving all to God. Yes we may feel, we my cry, we may hurt, but we must remember…

The battle is never ours…

[2 Chronicles 20:15 (NLT) He said, “Listen, all you people of Judah and Jerusalem! Listen, King Jehoshaphat! This is what the Lord says: Do not be afraid! Don’t be discouraged by this mighty army, for the battle is not yours, but God’s.]

Life’s test are not here to destroy us, but to grow us. Pray for wisdom in the battle, joy through the rain, and discernment to recognize the bigger picture.

[ James 1: 2-6 (NLT) Dear brothers and sisters,[a] when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing. If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind.]

Victory is available to us all, when we find strength in leaning onto God. We must find hope that there is peace in walking with God, and a breath of fresh air when we decide not to take on every burden by ourselves.

[John 16:33 (NLT) I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”

If you’re like me and feeling beat from life’s struggles, join me in COMING OUT OF THE RING. Challenge yourself to trust in God. Challenge your self to open up to more people (your confidants and/or spiritual friends). Challenge yourself to do something you love. Ask God to renew your heart desires. Stop making excuses and sign up for the gym or search for a therapist (things I need to do, lol). Make the decision to choose victory or at least believe that this too shall past. Subscribe to my blog if you haven’t already, LOL! Cause I’M COMING OUT! And you should too!

“Turning Negatives Into Positives, One Blog at a Time…”- Passionate Woman


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“The Girlfriend/Wife Test”

Okayy…So I was scrolling on social media, and I saw this post.

FIRST OF ALLLL! My mama will tell you, I have a zero tolerance for cleaning after grown people. Growing up, I’ve always had to clean after my older brother, and I hated it. He was the only boy of course, so as you can imagine, SPOILED Rotten!

When it was time to clean up, I always felt it was my brothers job to take out the trash. I would clean the kitchen and try skipping the trash. But I remember one day my mother yelled at me “You’ll be a nasty woman if you wait on a man to take out the trash all your life…” It was something like that, along with a bunch of you don’t wait on a man to do anything. Although, I was quite offended that my mom would never force my brother to even wash a dish…now that I’m older, I recognize even more she was right.

Not only does her statement resonate for young women, it resonates for men too…If you’re waiting on a woman to clean after you…then you’ll grow to be a nasty man.

At 25, living on my own, there isn’t a man that comes over and takes out my trash, or better yet open the jar of pickles that I like. [OKURRR]

Anyway…Looking at this photo again…

This logic is honestly disgusting. If I walked into a man’s house that looked like this, ain’t no going on a date (I know that’s improper English, but let me vent). At this point, if your house looks like this…do you even brush your teeth? Do you even bathe properly? LMAO, I know it sounds crazy, but these are my thoughts. Like who raised you?

Are you even mentally stable enough to be dating right now? Because only someone not in their right mind would be comfortable with this…even if its a “test”.

If I really liked (past tense because even in make-believe this wouldn’t work out) this said guy willing to pull a crazy stunt like this, I’d tell him he needs to clean up up before we leave, and chances are…I still wouldn’t lift a finger.

9xs out of 10, I don’t help people unless I see them first helping themselves. So whether its related to cleanliness or giving sound advice. You better help yourself first.

So to the fellas out there trying to test women…don’t play yourself. Cause I’m telling all my homegirls how dirty you are before I could ever pass this test.

Oh and for the mama’s waiting for your son’s girlfriend to come help in the kitchen, Sis, I AM GUEST! Unless we reach a true level of being family, I’m staying in my place.

Where I’m from it’s actually rude to be in people’s kitchen uninvited.

So if you want to test a Woman on something, try having an intellectual conversation on real life scenarios, politics, or even sports if that’s your thing…

If you have to test a Woman on her personal cleanliness, (I don’t condone this…) just pop up to her house unannounced. If you want to see if she can cook, plan a date night where you both make a meal together. Though, if your expectations of a “good wife” is to cook and clean..for you…than I hate to tell ya, but ya signing up for a failed marriage. okayyy..

Ladies….Would You Have Passed This Test…OR FAILED?

I’ll holla!

#BLOGGERCHALLENGE – 28 & Wingin It – ALLABOUTTHESCRUBLIFE.COM

28 & Winging It

As promised in my post “25 & WINGIN’ IT”. I will be sharing all post submitted in my blogger’s challenge. I’ve asked all my subscribers, readers, and bloggers friends to participate by sharing their very own Fun Facts, Confessions, and Lesson. Please read the post submission below from our up and coming Nurse, and Blogger, Tanya, from AllAboutTheScrubLife.COM

As you know I celebrated my twenty-eighth birthday about 2 weeks ago and I feel like I’ve been winging my last couple years in my 20’s. Like I mentioned in my birthday post Year Ventiocho , my goal is to be fully at peace and to be more in tuned with myself. I had plans of sharing things I learnt over the last year, but then my blogger sista over at Passionate Woman started a challenge where you write about fun facts, lessons and confessions about yourself so I thought why not kill two birds with one stone. So here goes.


FUN FACTS

  1. I was born in Northampton, England but grew up on the beautiful Caribbean Island of Antigua.
  2. Pepperoni pizza is my absolute favorite thing to eat.
  3. When I love and care about someone, I go above and beyond for them ALWAYS.
  4. My middle name Kylie came from the Australian singer Kylie Minogue.
  5. I get most of my work done with music or the tv on in the background.
  6. I love to read and watch T.V (2 of my hobbies).
  7. I once represented my country (Antigua) playing netball for the under 16 natoinal team.
  8. I cut and colored my hair and now I’m feeling like a new woman!
  9. I have become obsessed with journaling.
  10. I used to be the life of the party, now I’m becoming the grandma of the party ( a girl gotta get her beauty sleep lol).

CONFESSIONS

11. I am a very nice and giving person which is a good thing but 80% of the time my niceness gets me in trouble.

12. If I would stop being lazy and stop procastinating, I would accomplish a lot more.

13. I am a super emotional person. I cry for almost everything whether it be happy or sad, shoot I cry watching my favorite T.V shows or reading a book just because.

14. I used to buy people’s friendship, not so much with money but by doing things to please them; that wasn’t what I stood for.

15. I use to get teased about my “big lips” when I was growing up that I became super insecure and would try to hide them.

16. I have gotten so caught up with helping others that I end up forgetting to take care of me, It is ok to take care of yourself first before taking care of others. One of my favorite scripture that I’ve been trying to follow more is Matthew 7:3-5

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photo cred: Kendra Nicole// Shirt by: Black Owned & Co

LESSONS

17. Some people just aren’t good for you even when you want them to be. Beware of people like that.

18. I can’t keep living to please others. I’ve had to learn this the hard way on numerous occasions, I am still learning to put myself first and do what’s best for me.

19. It’s ok to follow your dreams even though others may not support, once you believe in yourself that’s all that really matters.

20. I learned very recent believe it or not that consistency and discipline goes a very long way.

21. It’s ok to grow apart from some people, even those who you’ve known for most of your life. Life goes on and some people just don’t deserve to be in that chapter of your life. As the saying goes “Some people come into your life for a reason, season or lifetime” it is up to you to figure out which friends fit into which category.

22. I am unique and Slaying in my lane is much better than trying to be in competition with others.

23. Be more appreciative of the people in your life, the ones who genuniely love and care about you.

24. Manifestation, meditation, and journaling has made me become more in tuned with myself- Proof that

25. Being in tuned, at peace and genuinely loving yourself is important. Happiness comes from within and no one should have control over that (still learning).

26. The journey to my ultimate goal may not be the same as others but everyone’s path is different. I may take an alternate route to achieving my goals but best believe I’ll get there.

27. Learning and growing is all apart of life. Keep learning and growing, you’ll be amazed by how much you really don’t know.

28. What is for you will ALWAYS be for you, remember nothing happens before it’s time.

I am still learning many things along the way, I hope I can learn more and get a grasp on life as the days go by.


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Feel Free to Join the Challenge: Do you have any Fun Facts, Confession, Lesson you’d like to share? Tag a friend or two other bloggers to participate and I’ll feature your submissions/blogs on my site! Just tag #BloggerChallenge “(Include your age here) & Wingin’ It”! 

 

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#BLOGGERCHALLENGE – 24 & Wingin’ It – URBNCASTLES.COM

24 & Winging It #BloggerChallenge

As promised in my post “25 & WINGIN’ IT”. I will be sharing all post submitted in my blogger’s challenge. I’ve asked all my subscribers, readers, and bloggers friends to participate by sharing their very own Fun Facts, Confessions, and Lesson. Please read the post submission below from Blogger Darquitta G. from URBNCASTLES.COM


 
Inspired by Courtney Saunders of Passionate Woman Blog Post about being 25 and Wingin’ It. This post will include My fun facts, confessions, and lessons thus far.
 
HERE WE GO!
 
24th BirthDay | Las Vegas 2018
 
Fun Fact:
1. When i meet people they usually think i’m shy. Im not shy at all! Im very social and friendly when i get to know people, but i’m extremely observant. I like to pay attention to body language and see if you’re the kind of person i want to be around. if i remain quite, something about your personality, comments or vibes has rubbed me the wrong way.
2. My favorite color is burnt orange and A clean shade of white.
3. I have an obsession with rose gold watches. I have a collection of 22 of them.
4. i’m entrepreneur to a small and upcoming Clothing store Shop UbnCastles.
5. I’ve lost seventy-six pounds in eight months #VSG
6. I am the youngest child and family means the world to me.
7. I’m a Pisces Baby! (March 9th)
 
24th Birthday | Las Vegas
 
Confessions:
8. I love chocolate and Sour candy
9. I don’t have any tattoos
10. I’m the “strong friend” that everyone asks for help, but never genuinely checks on. (working on removing people who only get in touch with me to get something from me).
11. When i’m upset i “talk through my nose” (whatever that means lol)
12. I keep my distance when i notice negative behavior. I try not to reciprocate negativity (be petty). i’d rather stop talking and remove myself until i figure out how to address the situation respectfully.
13. I’m Still Grieving from my close friend, Tiauna, passing last August.
14. I’ve suffered from depression since her passing. I’m learning how to cope and talk about it with the help of my awesome boyfriend and seeing a therapist once a month.
15. I hate scary movies.
16. My 2018 New Years Resolution was to Make positive personality changes and i’ve been addressing, apologizing and changing my negative behaviors. Im extremely around of myself thus far.
 
One of the last events we got to go to before her passing.One of the last events we got to go to before her passing.
Tiauna & I | CurlFest 2017
 
Lessions:
17. Pay Attention To body language and things people don’t say. Actions speak louder than words.
18. Not everyone is meant to have permanent residency in your life. Some are just temporary lessons passing through. Learn how to let people and situations go.
19. It’s okay to not be okay! I have been trying to hold it all together, but I can’t do it alone. It’s unhealthy for me to keep it all in and pretend i’m okay just to please others. I have found peace in confiding in the very few people I trust, but i know i have more work to do.
20. Don’t let negative people get comfortable being negative in your life. Address the issue the first time & if it continues remove them from your space. You become The energies you allow into your life.
21. Take care of your health now. Your future children need you.
22. Speak to a licensed therapist. Even when everything is going right.
23. Self Care and Self Motivation is everything!
24. Stop announcing ideas and accomplishments prematurely.
 
 

#BLOGGERCHALLENGE – 23 & Winging It – MsSparkleandGlow.com

23 AND WINGIN IT #BLOGGERCHALLENGE

As promised in my post “25 & WINGIN’ IT”. I will be sharing all post submitted in my blogger’s challenge. I’ve asked all my subscribers, readers, and bloggers friends to participate by sharing their very own Fun Facts, Confessions, and Lesson. Please read the post submission below from dearest, and first Blogger Friend, Kerona, of from MSSPARKLEANDGLOW.COM

23 And Wingin It

23 And Wingin It. My blogger friend Courtney who is the blogger behind Passionate Woman started a blogger challenge where you share your fun facts, confessions and lessons along the way. Of course I decided to join the challenge so here I go!.

FUN FACTS:

1. I’m a shy person but once you get to know me you realize the crazy down to earth person I am.

2. My favourite colour is purple and I am also loving Burgundy and Grey.

3. Fashion was never in my intentions as being part of my blog but I stepped out of my shell and I started loving it.

4. When i’m not blogging or youtubing my 9-5 is being an entrepreneur to a small and upcoming beauty store.

5. I’m an introvert learning day by day to socialize more.

6. I am an only child. And my mom means the world to me.

7. I’m a libran #libran baby

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CONFESSIONS:

8. I have convos with myself like i’m talking to someone else lol.

9. Sometimes I wish I had more weight.

10. I struggle with me self esteem at times.

11. I’m scared of loosing my mom.

12. Never would my past self ever post a youtube video but here I am today a youtuber.

13. Sometimes I wish I could be invisible so I can smack some sense into peoples head.

14. People think I am a high school student.

15. I’m scared of falling in love again but at the same time if it comes along i’m open to the idea.

 

LESSONS:

16. Never think a failed relationship is a waste of time. Use it as lessons and stepping stones to choose wisely and accept the love you deserve.

17. Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve you get hurt easily that way, be more cautious with your heart.

18. Exercising patience is something you need on a day to day basis.

19. Not everyone is meant to have permanent residency in your life some are just temporary lessons passing through.

20. Family does not always have to be blood. Its the people who stand by you when you need them most and the people who accept you in their live with open arms.

21. Don’t live your life based on the past. Forgive those who hurt you and move on.

22. Life will always have challenges. Just take things one day at a time and leave it all in God’s hands.

23. You can do anything you put your mind to.


CLICK HERE FOR THE ORIGINAL POST, AND TO CHECK OUT OTHER BLOGS BY MSSPARKLEANDGLOW!


Feel Free to Join the Challenge: Do you have any Fun Facts, Confession, Lesson you’d like to share? Tag a friend or two other bloggers to participate and I’ll feature your submissions/blogs on my site! Just tag #BloggerChallenge “(Include your age here) & Wingin’ It”! 

 

“Turning Negatives Into Positives, One Blog at a Time…”- Passionate Woman


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#BLOGGERCHALLENGE – 24 & Wingin’ It – Teearaida.com

As promised in my post “25 & WINGIN’ IT”. I will be sharing all post submitted in my blogger’s challenge. I’ve asked all my subscribers, readers, and bloggers friends to participate by sharing their very own Fun Facts, Confessions, and Lesson. Please read the post submission below from my dear Blogger Friend, Teeara Sharif, from www.teearaida.com


 

ATL blogger Courtney Saunders started this dope blogger challenge which will allow you to dig a little deeper into my lifestyle with the fun facts, confessions and life lessons. It was recently passed along to me by Krissy Lewis.

Let’s get into this!

Fun Facts:

1. I really hate dogs well Pit Bulls and Rottweiler probably because I’ve got attacked twice. Like dragged across the floor and once running through hoods and day care centers. My friends still laugh for days about that one

2. I have a thing for those ladies in pink and green! All of my love! I’m apart of the first black greek sorority Alpha Kappa Alpha, Sorority Incorporated.

3. I graduated with my Bachelors of Arts in Mass Communications from Virginia State University my favorite HBCU

4. I do have a nickname and its Butter my family call me this. I use to steal butter out the fridge and eat it when I was younger I’m surprised I don’t have high cholesterol

5. I’m very strong-minded, passionate and take friendship very serious!

6. I have a high interest in acting. I will probably mock ya mother and have her personality down pack

7. I’m addicted to wings!

8. I’m in love with my short haircut don’t think I’ll ever go back long

9. I LOVE LOVE LOVE Rihanna! She’s my sister I always remind myself, girl why you worried Rihanna live her life not giving an F*** what others think. Do what makes you happy.

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Confessions

1. I worry more than someone’s grandmother. This is something I’m working on!

2. I have a boyfriend who’s my chocolate drop! Boo’d up Boo’d up when I’m with you I cant breathe

3. I’m always telling myself I’m not doing enough

4. I hate talking in front of large groups… but that’s a goal to overcome

5. I like to take a risk and do things many people are afraid to do like picking up moving to a new city

6. I just started embracing my middle name “Ida” when I started my blog. I use to tell people I didn’t have a middle name because I thought it sounded like an old lady name but I’m named after my grandma who I never met so I should be embracing it!

7. I use to be so uncomfortable taking pictures but now confidence on a 1000 embrace your imperfections you bad shawty!

8. I use to be an angry person and didn’t know how to show much affection. Sis was going through some serious things but I’ve learned to embrace love

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Lessons

1. If you don’t take care of anything else take care of your mental health! Don’t let anybody tell you seeing a therapist is for crazy people!

2. Everything you go through is not to punish you but to prepare you for something bigger and better embrace the struggle

3. Everyone won’t understand your story and that’s okay! If you’re from the hood and work in Corporate America embrace that shit you sitting in that seat your worthy

4. Don’t live your life based on what your others want or you will be unhappy. If it makes sense to you that’s all that matters

5. Don’t let your struggles determine your future

6. Embrace those struggles because those hard bricks are aiming to build your strength

7. Continue to work as if no one is watching someone is watching trust me!

8. Your mind will always believe everything you feed it. So feed it faith feed it positive thoughts and feed it with love

I also dig a little deeper sharing 10 hard lessons I learned in my 20’s as I overcame many obstacles.  How much do we have in common I would love to hear some of your confessions or even lesson you overcame.

CLICK HERE FOR THE ORIGINAL POST, AND TO CHECK OUT OTHER BLOGS BY Teeara Sharif!


Feel Free to Join the Challenge: Do you have any Fun Facts, Confession, Lesson you’d like to share? Tag a friend or two other bloggers to participate and I’ll feature your submissions/blogs on my site! Just tag #BloggerChallenge “(Include your age here) & Wingin’ It”! 

 

“Turning Negatives Into Positives, One Blog at a Time…”- Passionate Woman


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#BLOGGERCHALLENGE – 25 & Wingin’ It – KrissyLewis.com

BLOGGER CHALLENGE: 25 & WINGIN’ IT

As promised in my post “25 & WINGIN’ IT”. I will be sharing all post submitted in my blogger’s challenge. I’ve asked all my subscribers, readers, and bloggers friends to participate by sharing their very own Fun Facts, Confessions, and Lesson. Please read the post submission below from my dear sista-friend, Blogger, Youtuber, Krissy Lewis, from KrissyLewis.com

A fellow ATL blogger, Courtney of Passionate Woman CS, created the “25 & Winging It” challenge as a way to reflect on who we are, truths, and lessons. I personally love a good challenge, especially if it allows me to dig deeper into my layers. This challenge has been making its way around different blogs and eventually got to me (shout out to Michaela of ADashofMichaela.com).Well, here it goes. I’m 25 and DEFINITELY wingin’ it!

Fun Facts

  1. I’m a hugger and cuddler. One of my love languages is physical touch, so I love being able to physically show my friends and family that I love them.
  2. Black and pink are my favorite. 80% of my closet consists of black clothes and any decor, office materials, etc. must have some sort of pink in it.
  3. I have a phobia of rats and small places. I literally lose my mind, I just can’t!
  4. I can’t control my facial expressions. I honestly suck at it but at least you know you can always count on me for a honest feedback, lol.
  5. My girl crush is SZA, it’s a bit embarrassing so I STAN in the comfort of my own privacy.
  6. I’m a very dedicated and ambitious person, it takes A LOT to make quit.
  7. I’m the oldest of three.
  8. I love writing, before blogs and articles, I wrote poetry.
  9. I used to be a cheerleader.
  10. I have 5 tattoos.

Confessions

  1. I doubt myself more than I’d like to admit.
  2. My sweet tooth is unhealthy and I need help.
  3. I’m really, really bad at math.
  4. I don’t know how to play spades. (you still can’t revoke my black card so carry on)
  5. I hated my natural hair the first few months after my big chop. It was such a big change and I had no idea what to do with my hair.
  6. I honestly do want a meaningful and loving relationship, not now, but in life. I’ve had an abundance of love from the women in my life, but I do lack it tremendously from men — daddy issues and well balance is nice.
  7. I was diagnosed with epilepsy 6 years ago.
  8. I don’t have a driver’s license and I’m lowkey scared of driving.
  9. I’ve been to therapy and probably will go back in the near future.
  10. I really love to laugh and smile. It’s one of my favorite things to do.
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Photo Cred: Ross

Lessons

  1. You never stop growing, growth is a part of life.
  2. Self-love and discipline are essential.
  3. You have to consistently and constantly work: on you, on relationships, on your craft, etc.
  4. You have to be resilient, regardless of how much you plan, anything can happen at any moment and you have to figure it out.
  5. The only way you can fail is by not doing and not improving.

CLICK HERE FOR THE ORIGINAL POST, AND TO CHECK OUT OTHER BLOGS BY KrissyLewis!


Feel Free to Join the Challenge: Do you have any Fun Facts, Confession, Lesson you’d like to share? Tag a friend or two other bloggers to participate and I’ll feature your submissions/blogs on my site! Just tag #BloggerChallenge “(Include your age here) & Wingin’ It”! 

 

“Turning Negatives Into Positives, One Blog at a Time…”- Passionate Woman


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#BLOGGERCHALLENGE 27 & WINGIN’ IT – RockNRy.COM

As promised in my latest post “25 & WINGIN’ IT”. I will be sharing all post submitted in my blogger’s challenge. I’ve asked all my subscribers, readers, and bloggers friends to participate by sharing their very own Fun Facts, Confessions, and Lesson. Please read the post submission below from Mommy blogger, TeArrace Sherman from RockNRy.com . If you’re looking for an authentic, loving, Mom Blog, be sure to check her out!

27 & Wingin’ It
 
Moms always taught me to be up to any challenge. I accepted the Bloggers challenge made by Passionate Woman CS for bloggers to make fun facts, confessions & lessons! Check it out!
 
FUN  FACTS
  1. I like to dance..almost anywhere & anytime
  2. I love to sing ( just turn the music up so you can’t hear me) lol
  3. I want a house in the country w/a white picket fence
  4. I love seafood..shrimp, lobster, crab legs, craw-fish, crab cakes “you naaaame it”
  5. I am good at sewing. I taught myself to sew pants, skirts and shirts with no pattern
  6. My dream job was a firefighter (#3 in Confessions is why I’m not) lol
  7. I want 3 children..total.
  8. I like to swim
CONFESSIONS
  1. I think I like someone (lol)
  2. I’m scared of heights
  3. I’m claustrophobic (why I could never be a fire fighter)
  4. I’m a Gemini, yes the two different personalities are true, but the personality that stays the same is the one that loves deep.
  5. I’m spoiled…THERE I FINALLY SAID IT
  6. Everyone around me thinks I’m conceited when I’m just aware of my beauty.
  7. Everyone thinks I’m mean but I always come from a place of love (no matter how it comes off)
  8. Once my mind is made, it can’t be changed.
  9. I am passionate, protective and crazy over my daughter!
LESSONS
  1. Be careful who you have children with!
  2. Everything isn’t for everyone, if it works for them..or you then that is all that matters.
  3. Always do whats best for you, no matter how bad you think you want it! If it doesn’t feel right it isn’t right!
  4. Treat others how you want to be treated.
  5. ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS love yourself!!!
  6. Need those who need you!! Can’t stress that enough, those leeches, and Debbie downers, lumps on the logs, leave them to themselves.
  7. P.US.H…..Pray Until Something Happens! It works!
  8. Be honest at all times. I don’t know about any of you but it bothers me to keep the truth. The truth shall set you free!!
  9. Work hard, play harder.
  10. You’re never too old to learn!
UNTIL NEXT TIME!

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#BLOGGERCHALLENGE – 24 & Wingin’ It – LADIESANDCOMPANY.COM

As promised in my latest post “25 & WINGIN’ IT”. I will be sharing all post submitted in my blogger’s challenge. I’ve asked all my subscribers, readers, and bloggers friends to participate by sharing their very own Fun Facts, Confessions, and Lesson. Please read the post submission below from Blogger,  Youtuber, HBCU Scholar, Tanesha Renae, from LadiesandCompany.COM


HAPPY HALF BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!!!

“24 & Wingin’ It”

Half inspired, half challenged by Courtney Saunders of Passionate Woman Blog‘s Post about being 25 and Wingin’ It. This post will include fun facts, confessions, and lessons thus far.

FUN FACTS

  1. I am a HUGE ANIME FAN. I feel like anime is becoming trendy, but I have been watching since I was in middle school (2006 to be exact). I started with the basics Naruto and DBZ, and I just fell in love. I don’t know what it is about anime – maybe it’s the reading of subtitles, the animation, the stories, or something. But I will always be a huge fan.
  2. Black is my FAVORITE color. I don’t know why I’ve just always loved it, black is just pure to me. It is also the color I wear the most of.
  3. I am a huge animal lover! I wanted to be a vet when I was younger (pre-my lawyer phase). My dad kinda ruined that dream by telling me I had to stick my hand up a cow’s butt when I went to Vet School.
  4. I am OBSESSED with my dog, Nehemiah. He has made the transition to living alone sooo much easier because without him I would never leave my apartment.
  5. I loveeeee flowers. Especially lilies. I believe it is because my dad always buys them for me, so I associate them with love.
  6. I love to watch weddings shows, wedding videos, engagement videos – honestly anything where people are in love. It brings such joy to my heart. It’s funny because I currently don’t want a huge wedding ceremony, just a reception with my closest friends.
  7. I cry at everything! Happy, Sad – it doesn’t matter. I am such a crier. Which is super ironic because if you ask my parents as a baby – I NEVER CRIED. I guess I am making up for lost time?
  8. I love the beach/lakes/ocean. The ocean/the beach makes me so happy and calm. Whenever I felt anxious or overwhelmed in college, I would go to the beach. Maybe because I was born on an island (Guam).
  9. I love to read, but not really non-fiction/self-help. I think it’s because I use books as a way to escape/live a different reality. I do think there is a great value to self-help and non-fiction books, just for some reason I am not into them. (If you are on good reads/interested in what I am reading – follow me here)
  10. I loveeee playing games on my phone – however, if a kid asks me I will always say no. Idk why but currently I have 19 game apps on my phone. A gamer at heart?
  11. My brother is probably my favorite person in the entire world, probably more than my parents. He can never do any wrong to me. We even got matching tattoos!

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Ancient Greek: φιλία, often translated as “brotherly/sisterly love.” | matching tattoos with my brother, cause no matter what we got each other.

CONFESSIONS

  1. #MeToo. If I say no, that doesn’t mean convince/coerce me. Listen the first time.
  2. I battle with imposter syndrome and severe anxiety DAILY. I am working on it. I am working on it by putting myself into more uncomfortable And working on my confidence especially when it comes to school. I know that my research and my academic perspective is necessary.
  3. I honestly feel every emotion super deeply. I’m not sure why but I do. And I also take on other people’s experiences and emotions and experience them myself. It’s hard but a gift.
  4. I am generally the person that everyone goes to with their problems, however, I have a hard time trusting people with my problems.
  5. I worry A LOT about being a Black woman whose professional life is BOMB but whose personal life is lacking. I feel like most people want me to focus solely on my professional life and graduate school, but my personal life is equally (if not more) important to me. I struggle with trying to balance both of these circles.
  6. I love blogging and vlogging – but sometimes I worry that my content isn’t that exciting or engaging enough to keep folks interested in what I have to say or produce (on YouTube).

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LESSONS

  1. It is okay not to be okay. I have learned this really within the past year or so. With the passing of my dearest friend last year, losing my uncle a few days ago, dealing with a lot of rejections for graduate school, insecurities – I have been dealing with a lot lately. And honestly, I have been trying to hold it all together, but I can’t. It’s unhealthy for me to try to hold everything in. BUT I have found solace in confiding in the very few people I trust.
  2. Experiencing multiple emotions at one time is absolutely normal and you are not going crazy.
  3. Closure, for me, is such a blessing and a curse. A blessing when it closes a chapter nicely, however more often than not has been a curse and made me feel worse than not knowing.
  4. As much as I believe that I need to be superwoman, I cannot save everyone or do everything at once. It is okay if the only person I save is myself.
  5. I am learning that my worth is not dependent on ANYBODY’s ability or disability to see or acknowledge it.
  6. Change is inevitable, and the quicker you can learn to adapt or roll with the changes the better it will be.
  7. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow. If you know me, you know I am such a planner and type A – but I am learning to just let go of my strict plans and remain strict about my goals.
  8. (BONUS) I am learning how to say no (and you should too!). For years I thought that saying no implied that I didn’t like someone or was trying to be confrontational. However sometimes, saying no is the kindest thing you can do for yourself or someone else.

Best,

-Tanesha Renae


#BLOGGERCHALLENGE 28 & Wingin’ It – TERRACESHERMAN.COM

As promised in my latest post “25 & WINGIN’ IT”. I will be sharing all post submitted in my blogger’s challenge. I’ve asked all my subscribers, readers, and bloggers friends to participate by sharing their very own Fun Facts, Confessions, and Lesson. Please read the post submission below from one of the hardest working women I know, Blogger, Brand Consultant, Shop Couture Founder, Terrace Sherman, from TERRACESHERMAN.COM.


28 & Wingin’ It

I can’t back down from a challenge. The Passionate Woman CS Blog challenged bloggers to write about their fun facts, confessions, and lessons. See mine below:

FUN FACTS:

1. My favorite color is pink

2. I have 9 tattoos

3. Hennessy is my top choice of alcoholic beverages

4. I started my first business at 21

5. I am the second oldest of 6 siblings

6. When I take a stand for something, my position is unwavering

7. I love chocolate

8. I am a Capricorn

9. I want 4 children

10. My nickname is Peanut – there I finally told y’all

CONFESSIONS:

12. I have come to terms with the fact that I am a crybaby

13. I am afraid of the dark – I just got rid of my nightlight a year ago

14. I wear my emotions on my sleeve – when I love I love hard and when I don’t care there’s a good chance that there’s no coming back from that

15. I am extremely overprotective of my loved ones – if you can’t fight don’t bother them lol (but seriously)

16. I am with my high school sweetheart and I’m pretty sure it’s because I put our names on the lock bridge in Paris.

LESSONS:

17. When you feel like you’ve gotten to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hold on.

18. I am not for everyone, instead of trying to fit into spaces that are not for me I learned to give that energy to my growth and development as a woman.

19. For every win is 10 losses –  be happy about failures that means your win is getting closer and closer

20. If it does not feel right, then it is NOT right. You don’t need anyone to support you, back you, prove it to you, or agree with you. Trust your instincts

21. You are responsible for your own actions, despite anything that was done to you. You cannot control what happens to you but you can control how you react to it

22. Teach people how to treat you. In every arena. What you allow is what will continue.

23. Remain teachable. The more you learn the more you realize just how much you don’t know.

24. Showing emotions does not make you weak. It is better to let it out than keep it in – say what you need to say, pass gas (lol), cry, feel in the moment so that you can move forward.

25. It will feel a whole lot better once it stops – this too shall pass

26. Happiness is an inside job – it is a choice. No outside forces can give it to you or take it away from you.

27. Make your money work for you don’t work for the money.

28. Honor and love the people in your circle. You are not a one-person show. It takes a village to raise a child, an adult, and a village.


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Feel Free to Join the Challenge: Do you have any Fun Facts, Confession, Lesson you’d like to share? Tag a friend or two other bloggers to participate and I’ll feature your submissions/blogs on my site! Just tag #BloggerChallenge “(Include your age here) & Wingin’ It”! 

“Turning Negatives Into Positives, One Blog at a Time…”- Passionate Woman


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